About Us

 Posted by on November 28, 2011  Add comments

Hey there. If you’re reading this page, chances are you’ve just discovered us, so I’d like to take a moment and introduce you to the people behind this blog:


My husband and me

I eloped with this guy on a train, 2 weeks after September 11th. I knew he was “the one” because the first time I shook his hand, I felt a little zing. I’m not suggesting that this is the proper way to choose a life partner, but after 15 years of marriage, I still feel the zing. So, you know…I guess it worked out okay for me. We have the privilege of working at home, together, and I just never seem to tire of his company. Unlike my first, disastrous failed marriage, I’m thinking this one is going to stick. It helps that my husband is brilliant, as proven by science (his I.Q. is a crazy 160). He’s also artistic, charming, romantic, hilariously weird, and deeply devoted to his family. If it’s true that each of us has only one great love in our lifetime, he is mine.

You can learn more about us in these posts:

100 Random Facts About Me
For Better, For Worse
My Fun, Frugal Wedding

If you’d like to read about our life from my husband’s perspective, please see his guest post series, beginning with this post.

We have three bright, “spirited” (and by this, I mean loud) kids, all conceived with the help of IVF. You can read our IVF story here.

Hayley, aka "Bee"

Hayley, aka “Bee”

Hayley, commonly referred to as “Bee,” is our 13-year-old daughter, and our firstborn. She got her nickname because when she was a baby she had pudgy apple cheeks, and an enormous dimpled grin, and my husband always said that she reminded him of the Honey Nut Cheerios bee. Hayley is very funny, intelligent (she skipped 3rd grade), and quick-witted, and her wry observations on life are an endless source of entertainment for me. Sometimes I have a sneaking suspicion that she’s smarter than I am, but fortunately she hasn’t figured this out yet. She shuns social media, despises selfies, and is essentially a 40-year-old trapped in a 13-year-old’s body. She emails me every day in study hall, hugs me in front of her friends, and has absolutely no shame about it. She’s an incredible dancer, a friend to every animal, and a kind and compassionate person. You can learn more about her in these posts:

Dear Bee
Should Your Child Skip a Grade?
Sweet Bee


Rachel, aka “Cakes”

Rachel, known by her nickname, Cakes, is our 9-year-old daughter, and the middle child. When I was pregnant with her we referred to her as “Babycakes,” which was later shortened to just Cakes (with a myriad of other variations). Somehow, it seems to suit her. As a toddler, Rachie was my “challenging” child, the one who was forever injuring herself, or getting into something, or consuming revolting substances. She was a little daredevil, and I spent a lot of time just trying to keep her in one piece. To this day she’s my quirky, nervy kid, but this is what makes her so endearing. I always say that where Rachie is concerned, there’s no such thing as lukewarm feelings. She either makes you laugh hysterically, or she pisses you off, or she breaks your heart. Rachel is quite athletic, and a truly gifted artist. Give that kid a pencil and paper and she can do amazing things. She’s also my most affectionate child, and the one who gets most concerned whenever someone is upset. She never wants anyone to be hurt, and will do anything she can to help. To read more about Cakes, please see:

It’s Not Easy Being Cakes
Cakes 4.0
The Best of Cakes



DJ (short for Daniel James) is our 6-year-old son, and the baby of the family. My Dad calls him “Serious George” because he’s intense, orderly, and methodical to a fault. He’s also stubborn as hell…by far the most stubborn of my children, and possibly more stubborn than me, which is really saying something. Daniel is very smart, loves nature and animals, and is endlessly curious about how things work. He lives in a little boy world of Pokemon, dinosaurs and Legos, and though I do not understand him, I have a tremendous soft spot for him. He is 100% his Mama’s boy.

I always say that Daniel is my bonus child. He was the last remaining embryo from our IVF procedure in 2002, and he’d been frozen for more than 7 years. Before the embryo transfer, our doctor cautioned, “Don’t get your hopes up.” He gave us a mere 15% chance of pregnancy, but DJ is proof that God is in control, and He knows no limits. Not only did Daniel beat insurmountable odds, but he also weighed 12 pounds, 6 ounces at birth, and my life (and body) has never been the same. I never really knew how much I needed him until he was here, and now I can’t imagine a life without him. I documented Daniel’s journey into the world – from conception to birth – on this blog, and you can learn more about “The Boy” in these posts:

Welcome to the World, Baby Boy
DJ’s Story
A Day with DJ


Pumpkin is our adopted cat. He’s orange and fluffy, always on a diet, often a pain in the butt, and sometimes not very bright, but we love him anyway. Read more about Pumpkin here.

I began writing this blog on January 14, 2008, 6 months after my husband and I paid off our mortgage, and achieved total debt freedom. We’ve been happily debt-free ever since, and we hope to never borrow another dime. We believe that family matters, faith is important, and frugality is actually fun. To get an idea of what we’re all about, please see Want What You Have – From A to Z. You might also be interested in Our Total Money Makeover, and How We Remain Debt Free. You can find links to other posts of interest in the navigation menu.

While you’re here, you might enjoy visiting the Top 10 Most Popular Posts of all time, as of January 27th, 2016:

10. My Index Card File Cleaning System
9. A Typical Day at Our House
8. Make Your Own Resurrection Eggs
7. Homemade Belvita Breakfast Biscuits (Copycat Recipe)
6. 13 Tips for Keeping a Clean, Simple Home with Kids
5. Organizing Your Chest Freezer for Maximum Benefit
4. Homemade Honey Lemon Cough Syrup
3. 11 Tips to Help You Get Motivated to Clean
2. How to Make Your Own Baby Wipes
1. A Daily Schedule for Stay-at-Home Moms

My goal as a blogger is to help readers save, simplify, get organized, pay off debt, and make time for what’s really important, with a lot of fun and encouragement along the way. I also blog as a hobby, to keep a record of our family life. Please see my interview at Mint.com to learn more about the mission of this blog.

About social media:
As an extreme introvert, I have a strong desire for meaningful communication. I dislike small talk, and what I refer to as “stop and chats.” I’m also not a fan of most social media platforms. I do not have Twitter or Instagram, but I do have a Facebook page, which I use mainly to notify readers of new content. You can visit it here, if you like:

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About the logo:


The cheerful yellow flower featured in this site’s title is called Celandine. It was chosen because it’s symbolic of sunlight, and in medieval art it often points to Christ. In folk belief this flower represents contentment, or as we like to call it, wanting what you have.


Want What You Have is a personal blog. Questions and inquiries may be directed to Heather via the contact form.

This blog accepts compensation in the form of cash advertising and sponsorship. Some posts may contain affiliate links. When products are purchased through these links, the blog owner receives a small percentage which contributes to site maintenance. The compensation received will never influence post content. All ads on this site are generated by a third party ad network, and are identified as such. The content of these ads is not determined by the blog owner, and is not an endorsement for any product, company, or service. 

The owner of this blog is not compensated to provide opinions on products, services, websites, or topics. The views and opinions expressed on this blog are entirely the author’s. Any endorsement of a product or service is based solely on personal experience, and is not a guarantee. Any product claim, statistic, quote or other representation about a product or service should be verified with the manufacturer or provider.

This blog does not contain any content which might present a conflict of interest.
This disclosure policy is valid beginning January 14, 2014.

This web site, in its entirety, is licensed and copyright-protected. It is the sole property of the owner/author, and no content or images my be used without permission. In response to documented plagiarism, the copy and paste functions are disabled. You may print content for personal use via the print icon at the bottom of each post. Some content is password-protected for privacy, and is available only to approved readers. Please see this post for more information.

Thank you for visiting. Please leave a comment and introduce yourself, and I hope you’ll come back and see us again!

(Updated 6/1/16)

  19 Responses to “About Us”

  1. Hi,
    You have a Cakie and I have a Cakie. My brother-in-law sent me your blog. We called our daughter Ava, babycakes and Cakie has stuck. She’s totally a Cakie (I like your cupcake cake idea for the birthday). She wants to open a bakery when she is older and call it Cakie’s Delights.  How sweet that there is another little girl out there called Cakie.  I love hearing her siblings (two younger brothers) call her Cakie.

    Happy Holidays,

  2. Hi. I have started reading back through all of you post. They are really facinating and helpful. I could use some help with the financial side of organizing. Like bills and paper work, also how to save money while shopping. Please email me at whitney_blakeman@yahoo.com. I would so love to hear from you and get some help to straighten all of this out! Thanks so much.

    • Whitney, you can find a detailed article about how to set up a filing system under the “Organization” tab in the navigation bar. You can also find detailed instructions for each section of the Home Management Guide under the “Inside the Guide” tab.

  3. I was wondering what your daily schedule looks like for summer. I am struggling with coming with one. I have 3 kids also a 6 year old girl, 4 year old girl and also 10 month old boy.

  4. Hi Heather,
     I have to tell you that your blog has been a real blessing to me. I’ve learned so much about making my own Home Management Binder, and making schedules. I’ve looked at so many ideas, but I keep coming back to yours. Your blog also reminds me that God should be first in my life. Thanks for that. 🙂

  5. Hi,
    I just came across your blog while searching the web and I have to admit it has been a blessing to me! I have a 6 year old girl and 1 year old boy and the schedules you have posted as well as your daily routines are a huge resource. I’m especially interested in your posts on living a debt-free lifestyle…something I hope to achieve in the next couple of years. I admire you for being a real mom and not following the latest (and most expensive) trends. My daughter goes to a school where the more you have (and flaunt) seems to earn you the most respect and I have no time for it. Your children seem so happy and well-adjusted. By visiting your blog I see that living in the moment counts and that it’s not what you have but rather who you have that counts!

  6. Hi Heather, Firstly where have you been all my life 🙂 I stumbled onto your blog whilst searching for something to help organise my life. I come from a professional background here in Australia and find being at home with 2 children very daunting. I find myself constantly running in circles, totally flat out busy but getting nothing done. My children are my life with my Husband close by yet I feel so disconnected with them because I can not find the time to spend with them. I’ve just surrendered a mere 15mins pouring over your site whilst my children are sleeping and already I can feel the small tingle of ‘zest’ returning. “Zest” is what my Uncle said I had lost. So here I am, taking back my days and with the help of your blog and some well spent time creating ‘home’ work schedules, I know I can get my ZEST back. It’s time to be froufrou and not flustered. Thanks Heather!

  7. Hi Heather! Yours was the first blog that I ever found years ago. I just wrote a post on my own blog about my top 12 favorite blogs and yours was one of them. Thank you for the inspiration!http://lifewiththeladniers.blogspot.com/2013/05/my-top-12-favorite-blogs-and-why.html

  8. Hey Heather! First of all, just let me say that I LOVE your blog! So many tips on keeping my life simple and organized! I am preparing to shop for kids’ clothes at our local Three Bags Full event and am wondering how much to buy. I know that I had read a post on here before about how many outfits you have per child, but can’t seem to find it now. Could you point me in the right direction??? Thank you so much!

  9. Heather…It was wonderful running into you last week. I have been catching up on your blog and LOVE it. I will continue to follow you and wish you and your husband nothing but best.

    • Thank you, Betty! I was wonderful to see you too. (P.S. – I edited your comment to remove my husband’s name for privacy reasons. I hope that’s OK 🙂

  10. Heather – I had been wondering why I hadn’t seen a post recently, but figured between a husband with a broken foot (couldn’t drive for over 2 months) an older child moving back in, another child’s layoff and job hunt and a surgery on our youngest, I must have wandered off somewhere and missed them.

    I’m not very good at facebook but if that is how you prefer to share your thoughts I will get better at it.

    thank you.


    • Roberta, you should still be able to see the posts that are not password protected. Are you referring to posts not showing up in your email? I’ve had other readers complain about this lately, which makes me wonder if something is up with Feedburner.

  11. Heather – I can read the not-protected posts from the website, but they aren’t showing up in my inbox the way they used to. I thought perhaps you were taking a break but never thought to look on Facebook or go directly to the website.

    I’m sharing a computer now so access has become somewhat limited until we figure out how to get Netflix on the TV for my husband, and my son’s computer gets fixed.

  12. Hi Heather!

    I stumbled across your blog through a link found on athomegirlfriend.com!

    Recently, I have adopted the mantra, “I choose to be happy with what I have.” I believe it was fate that your blog made its way into my experience!

    I love your posts! Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing! 🙂

    ~ Aspen

  13. Congratulations! Your website title is profound, your decision to share discretely is wise, and it’s a pleasure to know these good attributes have come together. I found the website because I was tearing apart my bookcases looking for my copy of Wanting What You Have by Tim Miller. In total contradiction to his recommendations, I distressed over not getting my hands on what I knew that I had! (Hope you see the irony in that. I can since I did, finally, find the book.) Best wishes to you and yours!

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