A Year of Honesty

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You know what I like best about Christmas? When it’s over!

I’m completely serious. I love when the house is cleaned up, everything is put away, and everyone goes back to their normal routine. Most people don’t understand why I feel this way, but I have a theory. I think that when you grow up with a lack of stability and routine, it either becomes the norm for you, or you go completely in the opposite direction, as I have, and actively seek it out as an adult.

My children went back to school yesterday, and I was rejoicing! In the past, when I’ve said this, I’ve been attacked by commenters with such gems as, “Why did you even have kids if you don’t want to be with them?” or “I just cherish every single moment with my littles!”

To which I say… give me a break.

I love and adore my kids, and I look forward to spending time with them, but when I don’t have a single quiet, peaceful moment in 14 days, I also like to have a break from them. This doesn’t make me a bad parent, and if you share my feelings on this subject, you have my permission to tell these sanctimonious types to put a cork in it. (Also P.S., you will not hear such blathering here. I promise). People really need to mind their own business. I don’t know when most of society collectively stopped doing that, but advice not asked for (on any topic, but especially parenting!) is taken as criticism. I blame the internet.

I have decided that 2015 will be the year of the Honest Heather. Not that I’m generally dishonest – on the contrary, I have always been a straightforward person – but I too often let people walk on me without ever speaking up. I’m done with that.

I sometimes waffle back and forth over what to write here because I worry about what people I know “in real life” might think. I’m done with that, too. Those who genuinely love me seem to stick around, and those who don’t should ask themselves why they continue to read here? For the love of Pete, don’t do this to yourselves! Instead, find a blog you actually enjoy reading, or better yet, write your superior opinions on your own blog!

One good thing about growing up in a family where every thought and feeling was shared – loudly – is that everyone always knew where they stood with everyone else. Dysfunctional as my family was, at least we got things out in the open, even if it meant yelling and blustering about for awhile. Then we got over it and moved on. I am of the belief that honesty is always preferable, and it’s better to be open and truthful about your feelings. You’re doing yourself a great disservice if you allow anger and hurt to eat away at you for years without end. Allowing resentment to simmer under the surface doesn’t solve anything. I have never understood the family dynamic in which all serious problems are glossed over or swept under the rug, never to be talked about or dealt with. How is this healthy or useful?

So, why am I telling you this? Well, if you’ll permit me to go all Holden Caulfield on you, it’s because as a blogger, I have my own resentment. I love writing this blog, but I’m not sure how to survive in the online world anymore without going crazy. I hate the phoniness I see in social media, and the internet in general. I can’t stand the posturing and pretending and “branding.” It’s all just so fake, and I find myself increasingly irritated by it. Furthermore, the internet has turned us into a society of oversharers with a complete lack of discretion, boundaries, or even common courtesy. There are parts of my life that I choose not to share here because I don’t feel that I need to air my dirty laundry, or that anyone who reads here is entitled to know every last detail about me. This is not dishonesty – it’s respect. I respect my husband, my children, and myself enough to know that some things are personal and private, and should not be shared with all of the internet for attention or headpats, or whatever motivates people to broadcast things that make me cringe with embarrassment. However, you can be damn sure that what I DO share with you here is real, true, and sincere.

I’ve written before about how I’ve often felt like a misfit. Though I’m a devout Christian, I always turn down invitations to join women’s groups – prayer, Bible study, or otherwise – because in the past things like this often left me feeling down. I never felt like I belonged, or that I could be myself, because no one else was. It’s not my intention to generalize here, but to say that in my personal experience, women in religious groups can be quite disingenuous, and I never feel Christian enough to hang out with them. I don’t speak Christianese, I have a sense of humor (which always seems to be a problem), and I just want people to be real with me. Why do so many Christians feel that they need to create a “churchy” version of themselves? Do they think this is what God wants? We should consider the reasons why Jesus came to earth as a man; He became fully human in order to redeem us (Isaiah 56:20), and also so that we can see ourselves in Him! He endured all of our trials and sorrows so that we can relate to and identify with him (Hebrews 2:14), and He can relate to and sympathize with us (Hebrews 4:15). So, if we pretend to be perfect, holier-than-thou super Christians, how does that show anyone the love of Christ? Wouldn’t we do better to be our real, authentic, human selves so that people can relate to us and not feel so alone?

In all honesty, I feel like I don’t belong with the Christians, even though I am one, and I don’t really fit in anywhere else either. In recent years, this feeling has been amplified by some family issues that have come up, which lead me to believe that perhaps I don’t even belong in my own family. My values and ideals seem to be very different, and I don’t think we have much in common.

In the blog world, I seem to be somewhat of an anomaly as well. I just don’t care about things that most bloggers care about. I don’t tweet. I don’t have Instagram. I don’t shill crap that I don’t use or love, just to get free stuff, and I’m not looking for internet notoriety (though sometimes it finds me without me trying). My biggest reason for starting this blog was to find people with whom I could belong. I thought that surely, out in the world somewhere, there must be people who would understand me. People who wouldn’t look at me like I have two heads because I don’t believe in “retail therapy,” and refuse to borrow money. People who would understand why I’m happier off Facebook, and why I think it’s rude to text or talk on the phone while in a checkout lane. People who would agree that it’s wasteful to build a giant house for only 2 people to live in, and that people are more important than things. I grew up with a mother who put her boyfriends, and absolutely everything else before her children, so this is something I’m particularly sensitive about.

I think I have achieved my objective. I think that those who continue to read here, year after year, are “my people.” So, I know you will understand when I say that if you’re looking for glossy, Pinteresty photos, detailed articles about my sex life, or sponsored posts where you can win a KitchenAid mixer….I’m sorry, but you’ve got the wrong girl (yes, I’m 41 now but I forever reserve the right to refer to myself as a girl).

What you can expect from me is honesty, humor, and real reality. Nothing here is scripted because I only know how to be myself (and not the churchy version!)

I hope that’s enough.

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  59 Responses to “A Year of Honesty”

  1. Sing it, sister! Heather, I know you’re an introvert and a homebody and so am I. But, I swear, if we lived near each other we would absolutely be friends.

  2. Love this post Heather! It could have been me writing the whole thing!! I have followed you for years and you have helped me a lot! I sent you a message on fb (it might have gone to your “other” folder) could you check it please? I have a question for you! Thanks!!

  3. You said it! Looking forward to all your future posts!

  4. Well, if there aren’t going to be detailed sex posts, I’m probably wasting my time here. πŸ˜‰ Also, I need a new KitchenAid stand mixer, so…you know…probably time to get going on that giveaway…

    I’m a fan, and I’m looking forward to whatever you’ve got for 2015!

  5. Heather, you are awesome. I love this blog!!!!

  6. I really love this post! Many times I feel like you describe in the post! I love your blog because it isn’t like most of the blogs out there! It is refreshing!

  7. And this is why I love your blog! It has helped to mentor me as a young wife and now as a young mother. Keep being you because this little corner of the internet definitely is a treasure.

  8. Girl you inspire me!!!!! I’m so guilty of being pushed around by people’s opinions, but you are the ONLY blog I follow because it inspires and challenges me while still feeling “real” and not impossible. Shiny is for phonies. Thank you for being 100% you. And you have some of the cutest kids on the planet (after my own, sorry but that DNA thing is heck of a bias!)

  9. I started reading your blog a couple of years ago. I can’t even remember how I stumbled across it. I rarely comment, because I would mostly be parroting what others had already said, but I just wanted to tell you a few things. This is the only blog I have continued to read religiously. And it is because you are so blunt, honest, and REAL. As a Christian I can relate to the feeling of not fitting in. I could write a book here about how I relate to you. So from one Christian mom doing the best she can to another, thank you. Thank you for being you. Don’t ever change =)

  10. YES! You’ve hit the nail on the head with this post.
    Thank you for your honesty! “I blame the Internet”

  11. I can’t remember how I found your blog, but I enjoy the fact that you are different. We live very different lives, but I respect the choices you make for you and your family, and love learning about your life. Please continue to write honestly!

  12. So refreshing…as your writing always is. Keep it up. The interwebs doesn’t NEED any more sex posts or crap giveaways! I’ve been a fan of your blog for years and will continue to be.

  13. Heather, I can’t believe I have been reading your blog for at least six years now. Wow! Your blog was the first blog I ever read. I loved it then and I love it now. I also love that you are real! I share your feelings of not finding that place of belonging amongst groups of women. God has placed just a couple of godly women in my live and I am blessed. Continue to be just who God created you to be. Thanks for sharing yourself with us. ~Marcie

  14. Well said! I think you are authentic and that quality shines through in your blog, your relationship with your husband and children and with your readers. I think this post may be on your top 10 list for the 2015 year, it will resonate with many. Please keep writing and being yourself! You have so much to offer and share.

  15. This post had me worried at first (bc I’m a homeschool mom who repectfully doesn’t always empathize with the “when are the kids going back to school” feeling. (Ha!) And i was scared I was getting a talking to from my fav. Blogger even though ive never said those things. Lol.) But I definently don’t “cherish every momemt with my littles.” Lol! They get fleshy (spirtually carnal), I get fleshy, it make for some yucky home mojo. Lol. But as always, your brand of semi-snide-humor always has me rolling (internally, with inside giggles…I don’t “Lol” nearly as often as I type “lol”. Lol. πŸ˜‰ ) Thanks for the honesty! Also, this advice is not critism: when I started being myself at church (which often includes crude humor others don’t always understand), it made it quick to find others at church who were also hiding their humor. πŸ™‚ It took time, but many who had looked at me sideways a few times eventually understood me. So go to Ladies Retreat and bust em up! πŸ™‚ You’re introvertism will get a break at home afterwards. HAHA. πŸ™‚

  16. Heather,
    I’m pretty sure yours is the first blog I started reading….about 6 years ago when I left work after having our first child. My second and DJ were born about the same time. Now I have three little munchkins and your posts still resonate. I love the honesty and real-ness I see you in. I agree with your post–none of us need bigger homes, more stuff, or more fake-ness. Thank you for your posts and keep them coming. They are always a joy to read. There may be plenty of folks out there that believe (and live) differently, but there are many that believe and live as you and I do!

  17. your authenticity is what I really admire from you, Heather, eversince I first found your blog… and yes, I am one of your people here. I am always reading and waiting for you new post.

  18. I love your posts and sense of humor. Ignore all the naysayers and just keep being your wonderfully awesome self. Thanks for making us feel like we’re not alone.

  19. Heather, you are fabulous! I started reading your blog in 2008 and it is one of a small handful that I still read today. I love your writing, your sense of humour and your relationship with your family. Continue writing as you do and your loyal readers will continue to come.

  20. All the things that make your blog different from the rest are the reasons why yours is the only blog I read regularly. Other blogs and Pinterest might be inspiring for a bit, but leave me feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or discontented, wanting to have what others have, do what they do, or decorate or dress like them. I feel like my Pinterest boards are just big to-do lists of the things I have not accomplished but wish I had the time for, breeding guilt that I don’t need. Your blog is a breath of fresh air for a fellow misfit like me. I’m not like the shiny people who always say the right thing. I also don’t fit in at church or anywhere else, and it seems like I can tell who could be a friend based on whether or not they “get” my sense of humor. If I can’t be myself around them, they’re not right for me. Long story short, keep doing what you’re doing – you’re not like the rest, you don’t leave your readers feeling less-than, you’re not trying to promote anything so we can trust your motivations, and you help some fellow misfits feel like maybe we’re not so alone in the world. Wow, what a group of friends we’d all have if your blog followers got together. If, that is, we enjoyed leaving the house and being around people, which we’d usually rather not do. : )

  21. Hi Heather, I don’t post often but I have been reading your blog of a few years now. I love the way it is and how you are just YOU. I also believe that is why you have the followers you do have. Keep on writing the way you do.

  22. All of the above- which is why your blog was the first I ever started reading years ago and one of the small handful I keep up with. I love how you share your family and life without misrepresenting or disrespecting them. I have never “walked away” from reading here feeling like my home, husband, kids, etc. were somehow not enough. And I can never get enough of your practical advice! πŸ™‚ Thanks for taking the time to share here.

  23. Whew! You made my morning!

    Disingenuous Christians…. Chistianese….Churchy….Yup to the point I no longer attend church. Yes, I’m Christian, but I don’t attend church. I choose to live my life and do my “good” without being judged by the church constituents, they aren’t truly The Judge. You shouldn’t care what they think, but it gets soooo old. Then add on all that they are worried about is how pretty their building is and praying to God to provide a building……..translation: Open your wallets, we want a big clubhouse to stroke our egos. I recently got roped into a church function with some folks…….I thought I was going to have to slide off the seat and hide to quell the giggles. He prayed about it for 10 minutes. Mmmm. Dude, God didn’t give you this church…the bank gave you a well over $1M mortgage. In bulletin, they mentioned that as soon as they paid off the mortgage, they could do other ministries. Cough.

    I’m a non-practicing Lutheran. The final straw was when I had a conversation with a fellow parishioner. His friends were coming for the weekend. They were Lutheran, but of a different synod. The minister told him that they could not attend communion because they were from a different synod. Not Catholic, Reformed, whatever…..a different brand of Lutheran. That’s not what its about. I’m in a high volume Christian Reformed area…..they shoot daggers if you mislabel them in the uppty two different types of Christian Reformity here.

    As for family, I guess I’m blessed with few. LOL! HA! The group that is left, of course, fit into the groups I’ve talked about above and don’t approve of me. I don’t care. But that also means, I don’t sit through holiday meals with condescending, little busy bodies making gossipy rude comments about people. πŸ™‚ Just because they’re blood doesn’t mean you have to like them or hang out with them. You can pick all sorts of people that are better!

    The “women” that have time to sit and pick apart blogs like that are nothing but junior high bullies, trying to lift up their own self-esteem. They’re probably jealous of your life, but can’t admit it because it isn’t full of mansions, yachts and jewels. They have to overshare on Facebook and Twitter to make themselves look important. Can you imagine the lambasting I would get on Facebook or a blog talking about shooting, hunting and fishing?!? Oooophf.

    Nothing wrong with the way you are. I’ve read your blog for years. I enjoy it immensely and, frankly, we have nothing in common. You have children, a husband that runs a screw driver and your crazy tidy. But you have great tips and advice on things and a few good recipes along the way.

    You’re spot on! Here’s to the Real Time Heather in 2015!

    (that bluntness will come with age…I have no problem with it at 50)

  24. Heather, I’ve been a devout follower of WWYH since 2010 (an American girl living in England) and I have commented both here and on FB. I completely feel everything you say, 100%. I swear we are kindred spirits. I’m so sick of the fake crap and I too feel women need to be more honest, and stop trying so hard to make other feel bad for not being “perfect” whatever that means. My kids are both back in school today and I am rejoicing and relaxing, and catching up on all MY stuff, including reading your blog x I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion, but truth be told, I wish everyone would just keep it to themselves! The internet is the greatest and WORST thing to ever happen to human kind LOL. Much love from me here in the UK and Happy, blessed New year to you and yours!

  25. I love that your blog isn’t a pinterest fest of perfectly posed pictures! Can’t say that 5x fast! You are real! You make other moms, myself included, feel like we’re doing just fine because we’re doing our best. I love that your blog doesn’t make me compare my life in a “I wish I had” this or that kind of way. I love that it challenges me to simplify the things that I do have instead of stirring up a desire for more material things. It is refreshing! Your blunt, honest, humorous posts have made me a longtime reader and our shared love of Jesus makes you family. God bless you and your family in 2015!

  26. It doesn’t matter how long I go without reading, I come back, I catch up, and you still remain my favorite. I browse among many other blogs, and I always find myself coming back to you because of the fact you keep it real. You are genuine, Christian, funny, and are included in the group of women who I admire most in this world. This post was especially meant for me this morning with what you said about family and the need to get things out for functionality instead of sweeping things under the rug. Love you lady. Keep doing what you do.

  27. I love your blog!! I’ve also been reading it for years and still get excited when you have a new post up!! Thank you for sharing your life with us!

  28. Heather I have loved your blog for the last 5 years I have read it. You are a real mom and that is why I have continued reading for so long. I too love my kids more than anything and did enjoy a little break with them but I too was ready for them to go back to school just so I could have a little quiet time in my house. My husband and I recently found out this past fall that we are expecting surprise baby number 3 and everyone in the world thinks we should sell our house and move into something bigger. Instead we are using money we have saved and paying cash for some renovations to our 1500 square foot house so that we have room for a new baby instead of breaking the bank and buying a new 3000 square foot house. Your blog always inspires me to enjoy the life (and home) God has blessed me with. Can’t wait to keep reading in 2015!

  29. Heather, Everything you said is so true. I love your blog because it is honest and real. I too am an introvert and would prefer just staying home. I’ve been driving the same car for 12 years. I don’t care if it isn’t the newest model. I hate going to the mall. I don’t like parties, or groups, or churchy, judging, Christians. Walmart is exhausting to me. I think tearing out a perfectly good kitchen because it is 10 years old and oak (horrors!) is stupid and wasteful. I have a couple of like-minded friends and we get together for a few hours every week. We eat in…taking turns fixing the meal and sometimes have a cocktail or two and just talk and unwind. Your blog feels like that set of friends. I’m 55 years old, and my children are grown, but I used to get tired of them and want some peace, but I love hearing your stories about your kids. Keep doing what you are doing. Your blog is one I consistently read and love. Wishing you a wonderful 2015.

  30. Hi Heather, I’ve been reading your blog since 2009 when I had my first child. Yours is the first blog I ever followed and still the only one I frequently check. I have always spoken my mind and I respect you for doing that in any forum. I also completely agree with you about people having no filter on the internet, frequently commenting things to others they wouldn’t dare say to their face. It’s really quite disturbing to me. I was very social as a child and a young adult and though I had my times of feeling isolated, I would describe myself as outgoing. As an adult, I’ve been less willing to join in with other people in friendships for various reasons, lack of similar values, interests, and honesty. I still have contact with good friends from years ago, most don’t live near me, but I would rather focus my energy on my family, my work, and my home. I love your advice, hearing about your family, or how you save money. I so admire you and your ability to live debt-free and I hope some day I can get there as well. I hope you’ll never stop writing, because all of us need you and love what you do!

  31. Oh my goodness! I am very similar to you. I am an introvert by nature, I enjoy being by myself. I have 5 kids and I do love them. but I agree, at the end of the 2 week winter break, I was ready for the older 4 to go back, my youngest is only 3. I drive a 10 year old car, don’t change my purse with the seasons or my outfit. wear gym shoes every day(they feel good). Make my own cleaners and toiletries. Cook from scratch, don’t enjoy retail therapy either and don’t wear makeup. I just recently met a new mom from school and we have similar interests. I was so excited for that! I believe in God and am a Christian but also don’t fit in. I felt like every church I have tried has a “club” of sorts and I never fit in.

    I enjoy your honesty. And I love your blog.

  32. Thank you for your honesty! I am finding myself at your blog quite often and am so glad to be inspired and encouraged by you! Please, keep it up!

  33. Heather, every time I see your post in my email, I’m eager to open and read. It’s always a treat for me to read your posts! I felt God led me to your blog and I don’t usually feel led to blogs or led to books, ect. I feel attracted or interested, but that nudge and that leading are a bit different impressions than the others. I need the routine and I’ve always been ministered to in some way when you post. Today, I just feel that I’m not alone in this feeling that it’s nice when my kids are at school for a chunk of the day. I like knowing they have a different outlet and variety of things to do that public school provides. I have been a stay at home mom of 5 for 16 years now and after this round of having the children home for the holidays, I have found a way to be happy if they are gone and just as happy if they are at home, homeschooling all day. My breaks come in different forms. I can send them off to their rooms for an hour of quiet reading time, and there we have an hour break for myself. Or I can send them out to the trampoline and as they jump for a while, I have alone time once again. I have homeschooled in the past and there was a lot of good that came from it, but I just wasn’t quite as happy with it as I was when they were in public school. Part of the reason for that was they seemed to be bored, lonely, and I wasn’t sure if I alone would be able to maximize their potential. After doing more research and listening to advice from veteran homeschoolers, I have more of a confidence that I can make it fun and engaging for the kids. I am considering again to homeschool, through prayer, I think God may be leading me to. Not sure yet.

  34. Heather, I love your blog! My husband and I always feel we don’t belong with a group because we crave simplicity and have different values than most consumer driven Americans, lol. I have been reading since pretty much the beginning of this blog and I still get excited whenever you post something new.

  35. I love love your blog!
    Been reading it for the last couple of years, it gives me a sense of real ness and my family is doing ok, and your an awsome writer not many can do on a blog, you just make the world a brighter place and ppl who don’t look at it that way, I honestly don’t know what side of the world they are living in.

  36. Love your outlook. And i love your blog because its real. Keep doing what youre doing and dont feel like you have to explain yourself. People know where the red x is if they dont like your blog.

  37. Couldn’t have said it better myself! You are not alone with your feelings of being a misfit. I am much happier when I just am myself and people can take it or leave it. Of course that doesn’t mean I don’t try to improve as a human being, I just use my standards instead of other people’s.

  38. I’m still here. You haven’t scared me off yet. ; )
    I know what you mean about wanting to be real in church. I miss you on Facebook though.

  39. Love this post! Being a 24 year old mother of 2, most of the “friends” I did have, quickly found out that I have “changed” and thus are no longer those “friends” I thought they were. For a while I let being in a different stage of life than other people my age bother me, but now I understand that God blessed me with people who will understand my changes and want to still be involved with my life. I too let people walk all over me, and this is something I have vowed to change this year as well.
    Wishing you the very best this New Year!

  40. I love your blog! Mostly because of the honesty and how intentional you are in your life and parenting. I relate to so much of what you share. I too have decided that the womens bible study is just not for me. I have attended for years just because I thought it was what good Christian women were supposed to do. But I’m finally allowing myself to let go of that! Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts with us, I look forward to a year of honesty!

  41. I love this blog and always enjoy and relate to your perspective! This is the first blog I ever read a few years ago and it remains my favorite for many reasons, but mainly because you are very real and very funny. Thank you for writing!

  42. Amen and amen!! Like the other women who have commented, I truly appreciate your blog. It’s like catching up with an old friend. Here’s to a year (and more) of respectful honesty! With kindest regards.

  43. This is why I love your blog. Because you are who you are. REAL. Thank you!

  44. I have been a reader for a couple years now. So happy I found your blog. You are real and i can relate to your life. thanks for sharing with us:)

  45. This is one of the first blogs I started reading 4 years ago when I was contemplating leaving the work force to stay home full-time with my children. Your honesty helped me then and continues to help me today. Thank you so much for being genuine. Thank you for providing a place where I can learn and laugh and cry. Most importantly thank you for providing a place where I can simply be me reading about someone else simply being themself. I am worn out with the perfect house and the perfect family blogs! Life is messy; just a fact, not something to be ashamed of. I hope you keep blgoing on your terms.

  46. […] want to thank all of you for your understanding, encouragement, and kindness in response to my last post. As I said in the post itself, it’sΒ just reallyΒ nice to feel not so […]

  47. I feel exactly the same, and I mean EXACTLY the same. I read your blog for inspiration and get so excited when a new post pops up! I find a nice quiet cosy spot at home and read it like I’m meeting a friend for coffee…
    Anyway you are most definitely not alone, and you make me feel the same way.
    ZoΓ«

  48. Heather, I absolutely love this post! I feel a strange kinship with you, which is odd because we’ve never met LOL. I too just can’t seem to find a place where I fit in, outside of my little family.

    I also realize that I have been reading your blog for over six years now! You’re the only blog I have ever stuck with!
    Please keep up the good work!

  49. I like you more and more with each post I read – this is AWESOME!!! Are you sure you aren’t my twin separated at birth? πŸ™‚

  50. I have read your blog for many years, and though my rss feed roster changes frequently, yours is the only original I have stuck with. I love this post, and this is exactly why I keep reading and being inspired by you. Thank you!

  51. Heather, thank you for your honesty. I also have been reading your blog for 2-3 yrs now. I found it by searching for a stay-at-home-mom schedule. Then I stayed with you because I can relate to so much of your personality. I have always been “me” and either people like me or they don’t. There is really no in between. I was relieved to read your blog and realize that I am not alone either. I am a Christian but not “churchy”. I refuse to even belong to a denomination because it might cause me to go against my own beliefs.

    Please don’t change. Your blog is one I check regularly and look forward to reading. No pressure though! πŸ™‚ I wish you all the best in 2015!

  52. I don’t know you in real life, but I feel like I know you from your blog. And, I love you! My husband, who hates reading blogs, enjoys when I share with him your recent post. We refer to you as “Heather” as if you were a close friend. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed following your family the last three years. Thank you for your time!!

  53. I stumbled across this post tonight and had to comment. I have been a reader of your blog for years but had stopped reading it for a while. I’m so glad I came back! We are so similar. I have twins through IVF as well as two other children. I have always felt like I never fit in anywhere. I am a Christian too but do not have any close friends at my church. This has been something I have struggled with most of my life and I often get depressed when I see how easily others seem to fit in. Just wanted to say your are not alone. I am also learning to love the unique person God made me to be

  54. I can’t agree more with needing Christmas to be over and to get back to normal life! It’s 12/31, and we’ve had houseguests in and out since 12/23, and I’m spent. I can’t catch up on the housework. Everything is a mess. I want to get back to normal!

  55. Great post, and well said. I sooooo look forward to reading your blog. I have been hooked on your funny, refreshing posts for the last few years. I take great comfort in reading what you write, as your thoughts are so much like my own and it helps to know that I am not the only one who feels that way!

    And who (seriously, WHO?) is NOT rejoicing when the kids go back to school? It’s a beautiful thing when I am home and the kids are not! Ahhhh, peace and quiet!

    Thanks for writing, I love reading it!

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